Lift your bottom lip to touch the very bottom of your top front teeth. Blow air through this contact point without voicing.

Americans pronounce flare as FLAIR (/flɛr/). You'll hear it in sentences like "Stare at the glare of the square flare" or "The pollen from the flowers caused his allergies to flare up" — more examples below.
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Lift your bottom lip to touch the very bottom of your top front teeth. Blow air through this contact point without voicing.

Place the tip of your tongue against the alveolar ridge just behind your top front teeth, the same contact point as /t/, /d/, and /n/. The difference is what happens to the air: for /l/, you let it flow continuously around the <em>sides</em> of the tongue (that's why /l/ is called a lateral). Turn your voice on the whole time. Lips stay relaxed, no rounding or flaring. For the Dark L variant at the end of a syllable, also pull the back of the tongue up and back toward the soft palate.

Start with the 'eh' vowel mouth position. Pull the tongue back and up while flaring the lips for the 'r'.
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The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
Americans use a relaxed retroflex R — the tongue curls back rather than rolling. The R is one continuous sound with the vowel before it, not two separate sounds.