Relax your lips and drop your jaw significantly. The tongue tip lightly touches behind the bottom front teeth and the back part of the tongue presses down a little to create more dark space in the back of the mouth.

Americans pronounce honored as AH-nerd (/ˈɑnərd/). Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "The medal ceremony honored the top three athletes" or "I am honored to be part of your wedding party on your special day" — more examples below.
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2 syllables, 4 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth behind your teeth. Air flows through your nose.

Relax your mouth and lift the tongue back and up. Keep the lips neutral.

Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you release.

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The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "honored", the "d" is not released — the articulators get into position but hold without the burst of air. Air stops but there's no release burst — the articulators hold position.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch AH — keep everything else short and quick.
Americans use a relaxed retroflex R — the tongue curls back rather than rolling. The R is one continuous sound with the vowel before it, not two separate sounds.