Press your lips together, add vocal cord vibration, then release.

Americans pronounce backhand as BAK-hand (/ˈbækˌhænd/). In "backhand", the "a" vowel before M or N raises and fronts toward [eə] — the tongue pulls up and forward, breaking the vowel into a tense glide as it anticipates the nasal. This is called the Cat-Vowel Before M/N, a hallmark of natural-sounding American speech. It comes out as BAK·HAND. Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "She practiced her backhand swing on the tennis court".
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2 syllables, 7 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Press your lips together, add vocal cord vibration, then release.

Drop the jaw noticeably. Keep the body of the tongue low and forward, and don't let the back of the tongue raise toward the soft palate. Pull the lip corners back slightly, almost a starting smile.

Raise the back of your tongue to touch the soft palate (velum). Stop the air, then release.

Push a stream of air from your throat through your open mouth. No tongue or lip contact.

The tongue relaxes down in the back and the corners of the lips relax before the consonant. This adds a schwa-like 'uh' relaxation after the /æ/. Think of it as 'relaxing out of the vowel' — it is no longer a pure /æ/ sound.

Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth behind your teeth. Air flows through your nose.

Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you release.

The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "backhand", the "a" vowel before M or N raises and fronts toward [eə] — the tongue pulls up and forward, breaking the vowel into a tense glide as it anticipates the nasal. The "/æ/" vowel raises and fronts before M or N — tongue pulls up and forward, producing a tense [eə] glide (between /e/ and /ə/). Not a pure /æ/.
In "backhand", the "d" is not released — the articulators get into position but hold without the burst of air. Air stops but there's no release burst — the articulators hold position.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch BAK — keep everything else short and quick.