Raise the back of your tongue to touch the soft palate (velum). Stop the air, then release.

Americans pronounce calming as KAH-muhng (/ˈkɑmɪŋ/). Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "She painted the bedroom walls a calming shade of light blue".
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Raise the back of your tongue to touch the soft palate (velum). Stop the air, then release.

Relax your lips and drop your jaw significantly. The tongue tip lightly touches behind the bottom front teeth and the back part of the tongue presses down a little to create more dark space in the back of the mouth.

The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch KAH — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.