Raise the back of your tongue to touch the soft palate (velum). Stop the air, then release.

Americans pronounce connected as kuh-NEHK-tuhd (/kəˈnɛktəd/). Stress falls on the second syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "He connected new information to existing knowledge for retention".
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3 syllables, 8 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth behind your teeth. Air flows through your nose.

Drop your jaw moderately. Touch the tongue tip behind the bottom front teeth and lift the mid-front part slightly toward the roof.

Raise the back of your tongue to touch the soft palate (velum). Stop the air, then release.

Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Keep your jaw relaxed. Stop the air, then release with a puff.

Relax your lips, jaw, and tongue completely. Drop your jaw slightly and keep the tongue neutral.
Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you release.

The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "connected", the "d" is not released — the articulators get into position but hold without the burst of air. Air stops but there's no release burst — the articulators hold position.
Stress falls on the second syllable, not the others. Stretch NEHK — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.