Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you release.

Americans pronounce delayed as duh-LAYD (/dəˈleɪd/). Stress falls on the second syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "They said their flight was delayed" or "The flight is delayed at the airport" — more examples below.
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2 syllables, 5 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Place the tip of your tongue against the alveolar ridge just behind your top front teeth, the same contact point as /t/, /d/, and /n/. The difference is what happens to the air: for /l/, you let it flow continuously around the <em>sides</em> of the tongue (that's why /l/ is called a lateral). Turn your voice on the whole time. Lips stay relaxed, no rounding or flaring. For the Dark L variant at the end of a syllable, also pull the back of the tongue up and back toward the soft palate.

Start with your jaw slightly open and the front of your tongue forward and slightly up. Glide upward, your jaw closes a little more and your tongue arches higher toward the roof of the mouth.
Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you release.

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The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "delayed", the "d" is not released — the articulators get into position but hold without the burst of air. Air stops but there's no release burst — the articulators hold position.
Stress falls on the second syllable, not the others. Stretch LAYD — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.