Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you release.

Americans pronounce depends as duh-PEHNDZ (/dəˈpɛndz/). Stress falls on the second syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "It really depends on the situation" or "The success of the project depends upon collaboration" — more examples below.
Record yourself saying "depends" and play it back. The mic stays on your device — nothing's uploaded.
2 syllables, 7 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Press your lips together to stop the air, then release. No vocal cord vibration.

Drop your jaw moderately. Touch the tongue tip behind the bottom front teeth and lift the mid-front part slightly toward the roof.

Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth behind your teeth. Air flows through your nose.

Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you release.

Same position as S, but add vocal cord vibration. Feel the buzz.

Click any sentence to see the full breakdown — every link, every reduction, every flap-T.
The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
Stress falls on the second syllable, not the others. Stretch PEHNDZ — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.