Place your tongue tip near the roof of your mouth behind your top teeth. Push air through the narrow gap. No voicing.

Americans pronounce self as SEHLF (/sɛlf/). The L in "self" is a dark L — the back of the tongue rises toward the soft palate, adding a small "uh" quality before the L. This is called the Dark L vs Light L, and it's one of the defining features of casual American English. It comes out as SEHLF. You'll hear it in sentences like "I use the self-checkout machines to avoid long lines" or "He is a black belt in karate and teaches self-defense" — more examples below.
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1 syllable, 4 sounds. Explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Place your tongue tip near the roof of your mouth behind your top teeth. Push air through the narrow gap. No voicing.

Drop your jaw moderately. Touch the tongue tip behind the bottom front teeth and lift the mid-front part slightly toward the roof.

Keep the tongue tip down and pull the back of the tongue up toward the throat. The 'dark' sound comes from the back.

Lift your bottom lip to touch the very bottom of your top front teeth. Blow air through this contact point without voicing.

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The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
The L in "self" is a dark L — the back of the tongue rises toward the soft palate, adding a small "uh" quality before the L. Dark L adds a small schwa-like "uh" before the L. The back of the tongue lifts toward the soft palate.