Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth behind your teeth. Air flows through your nose.

Americans pronounce napkin as NAP-kuhn (/ˈnæpkən/). Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "Need a napkin".
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2 syllables, 6 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth behind your teeth. Air flows through your nose.

Drop the jaw noticeably. Keep the body of the tongue low and forward, and don't let the back of the tongue raise toward the soft palate. Pull the lip corners back slightly, almost a starting smile.

Press your lips together to stop the air, then release. No vocal cord vibration.

Raise the back of your tongue to touch the soft palate (velum). Stop the air, then release.

Relax your lips, jaw, and tongue completely. Drop your jaw slightly and keep the tongue neutral.
The schwa before N disappears — N becomes the vowel of the syllable. Go straight from the previous consonant to N.

The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "napkin", the "k" is not released — the articulators get into position but hold without the burst of air. Air stops but there's no release burst — the articulators hold position.
In "napkin", the short unstressed vowel before "n" disappears — the schwa is absorbed and the "n" becomes the syllable nucleus on its own. Schwa is absorbed — consonant becomes the syllable nucleus.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch NAP — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.