Raise the back of your tongue to touch the soft palate (velum). Stop the air, then release.

Americans pronounce confidence as KAHN-fuh-duhns (/ˈkɑnfədəns/). In "confidence", the "t" between vowels sounds like a quick "d" — the tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth. This is called the Flap T, the kind of sound shift that makes everyday speech feel effortless. So instead of KAHN·fuh·tuhns, you get KAHN·fuh·duhns. Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "We need to project confidence during the interview" or "She radiated confidence when she walked into the interview room" — more examples below.
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3 syllables, 9 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Raise the back of your tongue to touch the soft palate (velum). Stop the air, then release.

Relax your lips and drop your jaw significantly. The tongue tip lightly touches behind the bottom front teeth and the back part of the tongue presses down a little to create more dark space in the back of the mouth.

Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth behind your teeth. Air flows through your nose.

Quickly bounce the front of your tongue against the roof of your mouth. Same as Flap T — a quick tap without stopping airflow.

Relax your lips, jaw, and tongue completely. Drop your jaw slightly and keep the tongue neutral.
The schwa before N disappears — N becomes the vowel of the syllable. Go straight from the previous consonant to N.

Place your tongue tip near the roof of your mouth behind your top teeth. Push air through the narrow gap. No voicing.

Click any sentence to see the full breakdown — every link, every reduction, every flap-T.
The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "confidence", the "t" between vowels sounds like a quick "d" — the tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth. /t/ or /d/ becomes a quick tap [ɾ] — sounds like a soft D. The tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth.
In "confidence", the short unstressed vowel before "n" disappears — the schwa is absorbed and the "n" becomes the syllable nucleus on its own. Schwa is absorbed — consonant becomes the syllable nucleus.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch KAHN — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.