Lift your bottom lip to touch the very bottom of your top front teeth. Blow air through this contact point without voicing.

Americans pronounce flashing as FLA-shuhng (/ˈflæʃəŋ/). Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "The flashing lights and siren signaled him to pull over".
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2 syllables, 6 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Lift your bottom lip to touch the very bottom of your top front teeth. Blow air through this contact point without voicing.

Place the tip of your tongue against the alveolar ridge just behind your top front teeth, the same contact point as /t/, /d/, and /n/. The difference is what happens to the air: for /l/, you let it flow continuously around the <em>sides</em> of the tongue (that's why /l/ is called a lateral). Turn your voice on the whole time. Lips stay relaxed, no rounding or flaring. For the Dark L variant at the end of a syllable, also pull the back of the tongue up and back toward the soft palate.

Drop the jaw noticeably. Keep the body of the tongue low and forward, and don't let the back of the tongue raise toward the soft palate. Pull the lip corners back slightly, almost a starting smile.

Flare your lips and lift the mid-front tongue close to the roof of your mouth. Blow air through without voicing.

Relax your lips, jaw, and tongue completely. Drop your jaw slightly and keep the tongue neutral.
Lift the back of your tongue to the soft palate. Lower your soft palate to let air flow through your nose.

The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch FLA — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.