Raise the back of your tongue to touch the soft palate. Add vocal cord vibration, then release.

Americans pronounce graded as GRAY-duhd (/ˈgreɪdəd/). In "graded", the "t" between vowels sounds like a quick "d" — the tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth. This is called the Flap T, and it's one of the defining features of casual American English. So instead of GRAY·tuht, you get GRAY·duhd. Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "The tests will be graded next week".
Record yourself saying "graded" and play it back. The mic stays on your device — nothing's uploaded.
2 syllables, 6 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Raise the back of your tongue to touch the soft palate. Add vocal cord vibration, then release.

Curl or bunch your tongue without letting the tip touch the roof of your mouth. Brace the sides of your tongue against your upper back teeth, and round your lips slightly.
Start with your jaw slightly open and the front of your tongue forward and slightly up. Glide upward, your jaw closes a little more and your tongue arches higher toward the roof of the mouth.
Quickly bounce the front of your tongue against the roof of your mouth. Same as Flap T — a quick tap without stopping airflow.

Relax your lips, jaw, and tongue completely. Drop your jaw slightly and keep the tongue neutral.
Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you release.

The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "graded", the "t" between vowels sounds like a quick "d" — the tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth. /t/ or /d/ becomes a quick tap [ɾ] — sounds like a soft D. The tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth.
In "graded", the "d" is not released — the articulators get into position but hold without the burst of air. Air stops but there's no release burst — the articulators hold position.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch GRAY — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.