Push a stream of air from your throat through your open mouth. No tongue or lip contact.

Americans pronounce hesitate as HEH-zuh-tayt (/ˈhɛzəˌɾeɪt/). Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask" or "Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any questions" — more examples below.
Record yourself saying "hesitate" and play it back. The mic stays on your device — nothing's uploaded.
3 syllables, 7 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Quickly bounce the front of your tongue against the roof of your mouth. Don't stop the airflow — just a quick tap.

Start with your jaw slightly open and the front of your tongue forward and slightly up. Glide upward, your jaw closes a little more and your tongue arches higher toward the roof of the mouth.
Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Keep your jaw relaxed. Stop the air, then release with a puff.

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The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch HEH — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.