Drop your jaw slightly with relaxed lips. Touch the tongue tip behind the bottom front teeth and arch the top-front toward the roof.

Americans pronounce incidents as IHN-suh-duhnts (/ˈɪnsədənts/). In "incidents", the "t" is squeezed between other consonants and drops out — the surrounding consonants flow together without it — most natural in flowing, casual speech; in careful or formal speech, the T may be lightly present. This is called the Silent T in Clusters, a small move that separates 'classroom' from 'native'. It comes out as IHN·suh·duhnts. Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "The broad audience sought more caught incidents" or "All incidents must be documented in the official safety log book" — more examples below.
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3 syllables, 9 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Quickly bounce the front of your tongue against the roof of your mouth. Same as Flap T — a quick tap without stopping airflow.

Relax your lips, jaw, and tongue completely. Drop your jaw slightly and keep the tongue neutral.
The schwa before N disappears — N becomes the vowel of the syllable. Go straight from the previous consonant to N.

The T is skipped entirely. Your tongue doesn't make contact at the T position.

Place your tongue tip near the roof of your mouth behind your top teeth. Push air through the narrow gap. No voicing.

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The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "incidents", the "t" is squeezed between other consonants and drops out — the surrounding consonants flow together without it — most natural in flowing, casual speech; in careful or formal speech, the T may be lightly present. /t/ is dropped entirely — the surrounding consonants flow together without the T.
In "incidents", the "t" between vowels sounds like a quick "d" — the tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth. /t/ or /d/ becomes a quick tap [ɾ] — sounds like a soft D. The tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth.
In "incidents", the short unstressed vowel before "n" disappears — the schwa is absorbed and the "n" becomes the syllable nucleus on its own. Schwa is absorbed — consonant becomes the syllable nucleus.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch IHN — keep everything else short and quick.