Place your tongue tip near the roof of your mouth behind your top teeth. Push air through the narrow gap. No voicing.

Americans pronounce smelling as SMEH-luhng (/ˈsmɛləŋ/). Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick.
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Place your tongue tip near the roof of your mouth behind your top teeth. Push air through the narrow gap. No voicing.

Press your lips together. Air flows through your nose. Vocal cords vibrate.

Drop your jaw moderately. Touch the tongue tip behind the bottom front teeth and lift the mid-front part slightly toward the roof.

Place the tip of your tongue against the alveolar ridge just behind your top front teeth, the same contact point as /t/, /d/, and /n/. The difference is what happens to the air: for /l/, you let it flow continuously around the <em>sides</em> of the tongue (that's why /l/ is called a lateral). Turn your voice on the whole time. Lips stay relaxed, no rounding or flaring. For the Dark L variant at the end of a syllable, also pull the back of the tongue up and back toward the soft palate.

Relax your lips, jaw, and tongue completely. Drop your jaw slightly and keep the tongue neutral.
Lift the back of your tongue to the soft palate. Lower your soft palate to let air flow through your nose.

The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch SMEH — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.