Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Keep your jaw relaxed. Stop the air, then release with a puff.

Americans pronounce tolerance as TAH-ler-uhns (/ˈtɑlərəns/). Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "The company has a zero tolerance policy for safety violations" or "The robo-advisor suggested a portfolio based on my risk tolerance level" — more examples below.
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3 syllables, 7 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Keep your jaw relaxed. Stop the air, then release with a puff.

Relax your lips and drop your jaw significantly. The tongue tip lightly touches behind the bottom front teeth and the back part of the tongue presses down a little to create more dark space in the back of the mouth.

Place the tip of your tongue against the alveolar ridge just behind your top front teeth, the same contact point as /t/, /d/, and /n/. The difference is what happens to the air: for /l/, you let it flow continuously around the <em>sides</em> of the tongue (that's why /l/ is called a lateral). Turn your voice on the whole time. Lips stay relaxed, no rounding or flaring. For the Dark L variant at the end of a syllable, also pull the back of the tongue up and back toward the soft palate.

Relax your mouth and lift the tongue back and up. Keep the lips neutral.

Relax your lips, jaw, and tongue completely. Drop your jaw slightly and keep the tongue neutral.
The schwa before N disappears — N becomes the vowel of the syllable. Go straight from the previous consonant to N.

Place your tongue tip near the roof of your mouth behind your top teeth. Push air through the narrow gap. No voicing.

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The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "tolerance", the short unstressed vowel before "n" disappears — the schwa is absorbed and the "n" becomes the syllable nucleus on its own. Schwa is absorbed — consonant becomes the syllable nucleus.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch TAH — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the second syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.
Americans use a relaxed retroflex R — the tongue curls back rather than rolling. The R is one continuous sound with the vowel before it, not two separate sounds.