Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you release.

Americans pronounce defense as duh-FEHNS (/dəˈfɛns/). Stress falls on the second syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "He is a black belt in karate and teaches self-defense" or "The defense attorney objected to the line of questioning" — more examples below.
Record yourself saying "defense" and play it back. The mic stays on your device — nothing's uploaded.
2 syllables, 6 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Lift your bottom lip to touch the very bottom of your top front teeth. Blow air through this contact point without voicing.

Drop your jaw moderately. Touch the tongue tip behind the bottom front teeth and lift the mid-front part slightly toward the roof.

Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth behind your teeth. Air flows through your nose.

Place your tongue tip near the roof of your mouth behind your top teeth. Push air through the narrow gap. No voicing.

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The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
Stress falls on the second syllable, not the others. Stretch FEHNS — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.