Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you release.

Americans pronounce definitely as DEH-fuh-nuht-lee (/ˈdɛfənətli/). Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "That's definitely not what I meant".
Record yourself saying "definitely" and play it back. The mic stays on your device — nothing's uploaded.
4 syllables, 9 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
The schwa before N disappears — N becomes the vowel of the syllable. Go straight from the previous consonant to N.

Relax your lips, jaw, and tongue completely. Drop your jaw slightly and keep the tongue neutral.
Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Keep your jaw relaxed. Stop the air, then release with a puff.

Place the tip of your tongue against the alveolar ridge just behind your top front teeth, the same contact point as /t/, /d/, and /n/. The difference is what happens to the air: for /l/, you let it flow continuously around the <em>sides</em> of the tongue (that's why /l/ is called a lateral). Turn your voice on the whole time. Lips stay relaxed, no rounding or flaring. For the Dark L variant at the end of a syllable, also pull the back of the tongue up and back toward the soft palate.

Pull the corners of your lips back slightly. Arch the middle-front of your tongue high toward the roof of the mouth.

The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "definitely", the "t" is not released — the articulators get into position but hold without the burst of air. Air stops but there's no release burst — the articulators hold position.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch DEH — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.