Press your lips together to stop the air, then release. No vocal cord vibration.

Americans pronounce participating as par-TIH-suh-pay-tuhng (/pɑrˈtɪsəˌpeɪɾɪŋ/). In "participating", the "t" between vowels sounds like a quick "d" — the tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth. This is called the Flap T, a hallmark of natural-sounding American speech. It comes out as par·TIH·suh·PAY·tuhng. Stress falls on the second syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "He enjoys the solitude of participating in individual sports".
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5 syllables, 11 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Quickly bounce the front of your tongue against the roof of your mouth. Don't stop the airflow — just a quick tap.

Relax your lips, jaw, and tongue completely. Drop your jaw slightly and keep the tongue neutral.
Lift the back of your tongue to the soft palate. Lower your soft palate to let air flow through your nose.

The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "participating", the "t" between vowels sounds like a quick "d" — the tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth. /t/ or /d/ becomes a quick tap [ɾ] — sounds like a soft D. The tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth.
Stress falls on the second syllable, not the others. Stretch TIH — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the second syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.
Americans use a relaxed retroflex R — the tongue curls back rather than rolling. The R is one continuous sound with the vowel before it, not two separate sounds.