Lift your bottom lip so its inner edge (where the wet part meets the dry part) touches the very bottom of your top front teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you blow air through.

Americans pronounce violated as VAHY-uh-lay-tuhd (/ˈvaɪəˌleɪɾəd/). In "violated", the "t" between vowels sounds like a quick "d" — the tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth. This is called the Flap T, and it's why Americans sound more relaxed than the textbook. So instead of VAHY·uh·lay·tuht, you get VAHY·uh·LAY·tuhd. Stress falls on the first syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "He violated the terms of his parole agreement".
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4 syllables, 8 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Lift your bottom lip so its inner edge (where the wet part meets the dry part) touches the very bottom of your top front teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you blow air through.

Start with your jaw open wide and your tongue resting low and flat. Glide the front of your tongue up toward the roof of your mouth as your jaw closes halfway.
The schwa before L disappears — L becomes the vowel of the syllable. Go straight from the previous consonant to a Dark L.

Start with your jaw slightly open and the front of your tongue forward and slightly up. Glide upward, your jaw closes a little more and your tongue arches higher toward the roof of the mouth.
Quickly bounce the front of your tongue against the roof of your mouth. Don't stop the airflow — just a quick tap.

Relax your lips, jaw, and tongue completely. Drop your jaw slightly and keep the tongue neutral.
Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you release.

The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "violated", the "t" between vowels sounds like a quick "d" — the tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth. /t/ or /d/ becomes a quick tap [ɾ] — sounds like a soft D. The tongue briefly taps the ridge behind the upper teeth.
In "violated", the "d" is not released — the articulators get into position but hold without the burst of air. Air stops but there's no release burst — the articulators hold position.
Stress falls on the first syllable, not the others. Stretch VAHY — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the first syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.