Press your lips together to stop the air, then release. No vocal cord vibration.

Americans pronounce proactively as proh-AK-tuhv-lee (/proʊˈæktəvli/). Stress falls on the second syllable — keep everything else short and quick. You'll hear it in sentences like "Let's identify any potential roadblocks and address them proactively".
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4 syllables, 10 sounds. Tap a syllable to jump to its row, then explore each sound's mouth shape and how it's made.
Press your lips together to stop the air, then release. No vocal cord vibration.

Curl or bunch your tongue without letting the tip touch the roof of your mouth. Brace the sides of your tongue against your upper back teeth, and round your lips slightly.
Start with your mouth slightly open, then close your jaw slightly as your lips round. Shift your tongue back slightly, then stretch the back up.
Touch the tip or front edge of your tongue to the roof of your mouth just behind your teeth. Keep your jaw relaxed. Stop the air, then release with a puff.

Relax your lips, jaw, and tongue completely. Drop your jaw slightly and keep the tongue neutral.
Lift your bottom lip so its inner edge (where the wet part meets the dry part) touches the very bottom of your top front teeth. Add vocal cord vibration as you blow air through.

Place the tip of your tongue against the alveolar ridge just behind your top front teeth, the same contact point as /t/, /d/, and /n/. The difference is what happens to the air: for /l/, you let it flow continuously around the <em>sides</em> of the tongue (that's why /l/ is called a lateral). Turn your voice on the whole time. Lips stay relaxed, no rounding or flaring. For the Dark L variant at the end of a syllable, also pull the back of the tongue up and back toward the soft palate.

Pull the corners of your lips back slightly. Arch the middle-front of your tongue high toward the roof of the mouth.

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The textbook way isn't wrong — it's just not how anyone actually says it.
In "proactively", the "t" is not released — the articulators get into position but hold without the burst of air. Air stops but there's no release burst — the articulators hold position.
Stress falls on the second syllable, not the others. Stretch AK — keep everything else short and quick.
Don't pronounce the second syllable too fully. The unstressed syllable reduces to a schwa — the lazy "uh" sound — in casual speech.